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                       RANDOM LESSONS FROM ME

(N.B All of this is purely from my perspective and experiences so far.)🧏🏾‍♀️🧏🏾‍♀️

It has been a few months since I wrote some for public consumption.And today, as I sit in front of my laptop, determined to put words together, I am stuck.

I have heard people refer to this phase as having a creative block, but I am determined to put something down, so I will scribble down some thoughts and offer some friendly, girly advice.

I had the shittiest weekend possible recently, and my dear friends, I am just going to advise you not to have multiple talking stages simultaneously and stay away from men if you are not looking for anything serious in that period because the moment you decide to be with someone out of those talking stages or maybe someone entirely new, you would be setting yourself up for some dirty business. Then you would see the 'wrath of man'.

And if you are a student and you are a girl, and you have multiple rumours about a particular person and for some reason, they then shows interest in you, run away!

He/She would say the best things, be the perfect persons, and be all the green flags; it is fake! It is a lie, and you should run! Don't worry; he/she is your type of guy, sure, but there are 7 billion people worldwide. You would find another girl/guy: your kind; don't become a social experiment, and I hate to break it to you. Those rumours are probably accurate. 

I know, I know, you believe the best in people, but no, babe, you do not need to think about this one. Just walk away and find something real elsewhere and besides, if the flags are too green, it is probably too good to be accurate and just red. Find something else elsewhere; you will be happier, trust me.

Alert! Controversial view: Also, if you discover that someone almost/even used you to cheat on their partner and you had no clue at the time, you do not have to be a girl's girl and say something; walk away. It is not your concern, especially if the person isn't even someone you talk to or are friends with.

Just thank God for your life and mind your business. I know you feel cheated and manipulated, but count it as a life lesson and run. You could have committed to the clown; you should be grateful God saved you for real, and you didn't become an official side piece or the person Twitter folks constantly curse out.

Also, do not insult people with physical conditions, even if they did something that hurt you. Don't spite them because if you encounter a crazy one, they will do anything to ruin your life and all it has, even going as far as fabricating stories and manipulating facts.

Again, do not go back to your ex or a former fling. I mean, it ended for a reason, and it was something serious; they didn't change, and I am pretty sure you didn't change too, so why go back? What exactly are you looking for? Find someone new and end things with people. Also, maybe consider changing your bad habits; you are an adult, yeah, take responsibility.

Babe or Guy, you got into a new relationship. Why are you telling all the guys who showed interest in you before that moment? Why are you even texting them to be sure they are okay and if you are still friends? That is ridiculous, and you are setting yourself up again for the 'wrath of men' because it tells them that you are doubting your choice and seeking validation from them and their approval. Plus, why do you think you still need them as friends? Did they text you initially for friendship? Be for a real man. You had friends originally. What happened to those? Why do you want to be friends with people that want to sleep with you? Be for real again. 

See, if it makes you happy, keep it private; people can't ruin something they do not know about. It is not a new food spot or an affordable sneakers store you found that you can share with people, so why are you rubbing it in people's faces? They don't even like you for real. Keep it private, and it is not a public affair. Be happy and giddy with yourself. I mean, you could tell your best buddies and family or something, but social media people? No, and most importantly, not Twitter folks man.

Asher Kine once said, 'For every outburst of shalaye, a reduction of steeze is triggered'. 

Hey!, why are you just explaining and explaining, defending yourself pointlessly like Harry Maguire? Are they going to beat you? Are they your mummy or daddy? Are they your sponsors? Or your creator? Hahan and you are just talking and talking, paragraph upon paragraph. Why? Why? Why are you embarrassing your ancestors? Oh, baby? Stop am shogbo? Stop talking so much, some making yourself look weak to people who aren't feeding you. Why the unnecessary need for validation?

Hi, I hate to break into you, but some of the people you respect don't have that much sense; I'm sorry, but they do not. I do not have human role models or people who I exactly want to turn out to be like because you never really know every single thing a person stands for. The other day, I watched myself lose every iota of respect I had for someone just because they decided to butt into a scenario or situation that had absolutely nothing to do with them. 

It is okay to admire people and respect some of their values, but don't make them idols, don't idolise their lifestyles and give room for them to mess up in your head because they are humans at the end of the day, and they are going to have flaws, and they would mess up.

It is okay to be quiet, too; you don't need to comment or respond to everything viral or trending, especially if you don't have enough experience or knowledge on the said topic. Don't embarrass yourself, please. In whatever sphere of influence you find yourself, ensure you know what you know well and excel at it. You don't have to know everything, but the little you know, be well-rounded.

Dear young person, as a fellow hustler to another, take it easy on yourself, man. Don't overwork yourself to early death or worry yourself into depression. Learn not to compare yourself to others or measure your growth by another person born of another woman. It is okay to be different. It is okay if you don't want a side hustle in school and want to focus on your academics; it is fine if you think school is a scam, but Bill Gates' dad is not your dad, so finish that degree nonetheless. Pace yourself, design your yardstick, and measure your growth by the person you were yesterday or the month before, not what Bose or Femi is doing. Remember, while pacing yourself, do not be stagnant ; ask for help if needed, and be excellent at whatever you choose. Don't be idle, sha. 

An idle man is the devil's workshop, right?

Finally, please be happy, take care of yourself, do things that work for you, spend time with people who matter to you while you can, and give people their flowers while they are alive.

At the same time, they are alive, fall in love, be in love, learn every day, sell your market or brand, do something extraordinary every day and be at peace with all men, too. 

Take care of your mental health, ask for help, do not do life alone, and smile more; you look stunning when you do that, and please find Jesus too.

Thank you for ‘reading’ my Ted Talk😅

And again, these are all from my perspective, and I thought to share the little ‘shege’ life has shown me in the last 23 years.

Have a great day.

All my love, Eunice❤️

‘Wrath of Man’: when a guy aggressively decides to ruin your life or things that bring you joy; sometimes with the help of their fellow guy friends🌚

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